Comments on: Histrionic Personality Disorder

By: Dr. Dorothy

Dr. Dorothy — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 22:02:39 +0000

Tedy,

I see your point. But on the plus side you write quite well and you have kept your sense of balance even if it is a little strained. You know what to do. You want to walk away. You also want it to be easy–it won’t be easy or fast.

Let me suggest that you seek out a therapist (someone recommended by your physician). You need someone in your corner while you decide what you must do to take care of yourself. Don’t lose sight of your goal–to acheive freedom. Again, it won’t be easy, but it will happen. I promise. Good luck.

By: tedy

tedy — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 08:03:19 +0000

I just turned 18 and iam stuck in this whole of lies, but the unfair thing is that this trench of lies is not my doing. Dear god. SPOT ON, even the picture resembles my so called “friend” which impulsively lies and always makes herself the center of attention. Shes incredibly dependent on friends and when she gets in a relationship she wont stop talking about it and how hurt she is. she cant handle the slightest heartache. she makes lies and pretends that shes on the same level as you are, in fact, you say something and she comes up with this lie about how she had the same experience but tries to undermine yours, being the greater one. i really dont get her and cant believe it took me this long to catch on to her lies. i blame it on my gullibleness and trust in people that they will be true in return for my honesty. shes grown so much on me that im scared for both her and my well-being. if i stop talking to her, she becomes severely depressed and goes into her own world of self pity. one time, we had a sleep over and were drinking and one thing after another i said something which saddened me and out of the blue she turned it into her own and got to the point to where she cut herself and i had to baby sit her all fucking night(excuse my language, but this really frustrated me that she can be soooo self absorbed). at first she seemed like a total ideal friend, like something out of a tv series, best bud best bud deal. and found that we had SOOO much in common; i liked gossip girl, OH, but she adored gossip girl(the tv series), i hated biology class, SHE DREADED IT. like i said, i thought we had soo much in common but as the days go by i begin to realize how much of a lying, impulsive, self centered, manipulative freind she is. i mean, i had to find out what kind parents she had and that they truly try to make her the best, happiest daughter in the world, well, this isnt the way she described them. she made her life seem sooo horrible but just to make her the center of attention. Weve enrolled in a few clases together for our first semester of college in the fall and cant help myself but to think how much of a bad decision that was. Im gay and she insist on holding hands and giving me a peck(kiss) infront of people, as if she craves attention! Its making me dislike her more and more and she just doesn’t get it, I DON’T LIKE GIRLS. Ive tried calling her out( hinting) on it and turns it into how she lives such a miserable life. In fact she lives a wonderful life! When im around her I never even get to give my opinions or have a say in anything really, shes always talking and makes up the most ridiculous lies trying to impress her audiences. I rmeber back when she began to show her true clors she brought up this old friend and how abusive she was, how she was sooooo mean to her…but now I completely understand her friend, she just couldn’t handle it anymore and decided to call her out on her lies, simply just stating the cold hard facts( which she just couldn handle). This is probably why she fled her(my “friend”) boarding school where she shared a dorm with her friend. And dropped out of the sky into my life, little did I know that this was the reincarnation of the lying evil angel Gabriela herself. Im supposed to hang out with her tomorrow, but I just don’t know how much more I can handle from her. Shes turned me into an alcoholic and smoker, you know what they say “misery loves company”, I feel like shes dragging me back down to hell w/ her where I am convinced she derived from. HELP me, im going insane. :,(

By: Mohit Manuja

Mohit Manuja — Sun, 27 Jun 2010 20:37:08 +0000

Yes as clearly pointed out, they start with a bang, the early phase is pretty entertaining…you feel flirted with ..one feels important…and the exit ” sudden”. Almost like the rug pulled under your feet. Yes I did meet one such female. Extremely seductive and flirtatious. But I am not sure words like “predator” or “insensitive ” should be used for them. Yes they cause a lot of emotional damage , im not sure till date if she did it on purpose. I would like to add something…the way they use words is very dramatic..in fact they are wizards of communication I felt. Blowing up any situation was her habit. I could never feel connected and hence as pointed out . They carry hollow emotions

By: Guest

Guest — Sun, 27 Jun 2010 12:22:49 +0000

finally someone who understands, great blog, ill be passing my friends the link, keep up the god work

By: Michelle Nicodemus

Michelle Nicodemus — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 02:29:24 +0000

I have been involved with a male histrionic/narcissist with huge dependency issues since 2006. It’s been a stormy relationship – issues of deceit, dishonesty, immaturity, self centertedness, infidelity, substance abuse ( alcohol), and lack of empathy. It’s been a roller coaster ride – they are the “ultimate drama queens” and create quite a bit of it. Everything is magnified l,000 times in the way of THEIR problems -THEIR issues – and is always about them. They will never support you and cannot offer much in the way of a relationship. They make great dates/boyfriends but as significant others – they fall short. It’s like teaching a pig to sing. They cannot sing – no matter how hard you try to teach them. It takes a very self confident, strong, person to cope with a histrionic – Lies are abundant and difficult, if not impossible – to know when they are being truthful. You can get an answer to a question – and five minutes later – you will get another answer – or you will get denial ( never said that) – or the entire story can be rewritten in the blink of an eyelash. They are the most “alive” people – they are exciting – enthusiastic – and shallow. Life is always an adventure…. but if you want a person to have an indepth discussion about your future together – life plans – someone to hold your hand in crisis…. THIS is so not the person for you. They are children trapped in an old person’s body for eternity. They never grow up. Emotionally stunted at age 6 due to trauma ( abuse or neglect – or overindulgence) they see the World thru eyes of a child. Very demanding. Needing constant attention from anyone or anything. They will abandon relationships of 10 yrs for a moment with a new “source” who pays attention to them. They are extremely impulsive people, handle money poorly, jump from woman to woman since they can’t stand to be alone -and live a life of emptiness with the only goal being to “WIN”. Whatever it is – money, attention, love, sex,
from anyone who crosses their path. They are true predators and suck the life – all your emotion – right from under you leaving you feeling drained, exhausted, and wondering what happened. The only way to make sense of that that doesn’t make sense – the histrionic – is to realize… it is a mental disorder. Their behavior – their brains are disordered. Not wired like you and me. Disjointed – with great difficulty in remembering things/details due to their tendency to repress what is unpleasant – blocking out a great deal of their past. They use projection quite a bit – accusing you of what they are guilty of doing…… and are NEVER to blame. It’s always the other guy’s fault…. If you can? Run away…… Do not get involved – they will hurt you and never look back….. They will discard you like an old newspaper forgetting all the love/devotion you offered and barely remember your name. Your replacement will arrive as soon as the next day. Look at their eyes. It’s all in the eyes. Intense like a predatory animal…. and blank…. their souls are empty.