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Comment on Awesome Employee Test by dorothy

dorothy — Sat, 19 Nov 2011 20:50:51 +0000

This test is for the employee to judge his or her behavior. That is why it is obvious.
Thanks for the commnet.
Be well
Dr. Dorothy

Comment on Histrionic Personality Disorder by Jean

Jean — Wed, 05 Oct 2011 21:30:37 +0000

Thank you.

Comment on Avoidant Personality Disorder by Dr. Dorothy McCoy

Dr. Dorothy McCoy — Wed, 31 Aug 2011 15:27:02 +0000

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Comment on Are You the Next Shakespeare? by jeans online

jeans online — Wed, 24 Aug 2011 17:40:25 +0000

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Comment on How to Handle the Bad Boys — Part 3 by Gretta Callejo

Gretta Callejo — Wed, 24 Aug 2011 05:40:04 +0000

Being a psychologist myself, I appreciate your blog post. Thanks.

Comment on How Angry Are You? The Anger Quiz. by Dr. Andrea Peoples-Marwah

Dr. Andrea Peoples-Marwah — Fri, 08 Apr 2011 00:18:49 +0000

Although this was several years ago, I can still vividly recall seeing a fairly young couple on the subway having what one would call a “tete-a-tete”. It wasn’t until the disagreement progressed that many of the riders on the subway realized there was something more to it–an angrier side. One of the partners was hollering very loud while the other, sulked in embarrassment, wishing he would stop. He was completely in a fit of rage. Many of us felt bad for this woman. All I could do was look and wonder why would anyone subject him/herself to this behavior and why did the person in this fit of rage deemed it proper in doing so?
What people need to understand is that hollering at someone is not an effective strategy in getting a point across. In fact, it shows one of the many ways a person can de-humanize another. If people want to be heard, then they need to understand there is a way of conducting what one would consider a healthy disagreement versus a disagreement that shows abusive tendencies.

Comment on Histrionic Personality Disorder by Michelle Nicodemus

Michelle Nicodemus — Thu, 07 Apr 2011 23:06:50 +0000

I am glad some of you could relate to my story. I must tell you I reunited with this man over the course of 5 yrs. Most recently – 3 mos ago. When I met him 5 yrs ago, he was hiding a woman and lying about it. 5 yrs later – he was still hiding women and lying about it. He made the mistake of leaving his cellphone at my house one morning – and I found numerous phone numbers of his ” backups/fan club”.. I was irate. I couldn’t believe I’d been duped AGAIN when he SEEMED so sincere!!! They are the most fantastic liars — and so good that they believe their OWN. They lie as they go — Yes, they are needy, dependent, exhausting, and selfish. They are also exciting – energetic – sexual and make you feel like the MOST important person on the face of the Earth. LIttle do we know – they are using the SAME lines and using the same tactics to land all the others in their ” fan club”.. They recycle people. Their goal is to WIN. They want to try to get back the former lovers/fools/targets who left them.. and then .. when they know they have you – they revert back to their “old selves”.. The cycle repeats itself. Sometimes they will just detach and dump you. Other times – they will string you along because there is something in it for them. For my guy? 59 yrs old – and experienced with the charm… LOTS of charm – flattery – etc. etc. He wanted my money. Now he is in bankruptcy. Thought he was getting mine. Hm. Don’t think so. I did spend thousands of dollars on this lazy man — always crying ” got no money”.. wah wah. But ALWAYS enough money for himself!! For his toys. ( He is an alcoholic and always had beer).. When I found out he was taking OTHER women out… and making ME pay for our dinners out – I was LIVID. He was quite the smooth operator. As far as the sex?? They only want the attention. The sex may NOT be that good with them.. They don’t care.. The more they give to you, sexually.. the MORE you will give back to THEM. They are not making love. They are having sex. YOU are an object.. Well — it’s been 5 yrs now. A fitting ending to a wild roller coaster ride. Please – all of you – remember.. HPD is a personality disorder. IT is not YOU. You were only loving, giving, and trusting. THEY are the predators. If a rattlesnake bit you – would you ask them WHY they did it? Do not try to reason – do not try logic.. You can’t.. YOu cannot be logical and make sense of a DISORDERED mind. Be thankful you survived.. and understand… YOU are the winner here.. You learned – you moved on…. leave those memories of the person you THOUGHT they were WAY behind you — and make better choices for YOU. They will be forever damaged – seeking that “perfect love” that will reflect back to them as they believe THEY are perfect.. and be constantly disappointed.. Over and Over again.. They are broken people. AND if they don’t want to change — believe them. Few can. They are predators. Looking for targets. THey will NEVER view a “partner” as a person.. They only want something. Remember that…

Comment on How to Handle the Bad Boys — Part 6 by Dr. Andrea Peoples-Marwah

Dr. Andrea Peoples-Marwah — Wed, 06 Apr 2011 13:32:54 +0000

It is so very important to surround yourself with a solid network of those you can trust and seek comfort from. As the saying goes, “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks”, and in the case of a person who chooses to use their charm to manipulate and place blame on others, he/she will not change because this web of manipulation has worked favorably for them. And they’ll continue using this as a means of destroying others all in the name of their personal agenda/gains.

Comment on How to Handle the Bad Boys — Part 5 by Dr. Andrea Peoples-Marwah

Dr. Andrea Peoples-Marwah — Mon, 04 Apr 2011 00:40:08 +0000

Isn’t it interesting how persons who display patterns of manipulation seemingly are dependent on others for their personal gains? This is something I’ve witnessed periodically within various professions. More often than not, they display the “woe-is-me” role (the victim) and are looking for pity and support from others they have somehow convinced they really are the victim. It’s scary to me.

Comment on Borderline Personality Disorder by Kevin Blumer

Kevin Blumer — Fri, 01 Apr 2011 01:14:18 +0000

What i never get with people like theropists is they are not risk takers or gamblers now sometimes if they tool a risk i think they could help so many more people. This is form my own experience with BPD.

Comment on Histrionic Personality Disorder by Thomas

Thomas — Wed, 23 Mar 2011 14:17:59 +0000

What the first post, Michelle Nicodemus, wrote resonated with me to the point of sending a cold up my spine. I relate to it word for word. Except replace ‘he’ with ‘she’. I fell deeply in love with the exact same sort of person when I was very young, naive, shy and impressionable. This was over 25 years ago and it was something I never got over and something that crippled me emotionally and romantically my whole life. Two years ago by chance I reunited with the ‘Love of my Life’ and it was uncanny how things unfolded almost EXACTLY the same way again. A brief and intense period of bliss in an exotic locale, and then … ending in me being used, crushed and heartbroken all over again. I would have thought that being older and (so I thought) wiser I would have found it easier to get over it and move on from this most cruel of betrayals, but it hasn’t been any easier. In some ways it has been even harder. The experience has damaged me both emotionally and physically. But I am doing my best to move forward and repair my heart – literally and metaphorically. I have no other choice really.
It is true the eyes are the windows to the soul. Especially in the case of narcissists, histrionics and borderlines. I use to think that the Love of my Life had the most beautiful big brown eyes. Now when I think of her and those eyes, I am more reminded of the eyes of a shark. Cold and soulless. A true maneater.

Comment on Borderline Personality Disorder by Gennie Wetzel

Gennie Wetzel — Sun, 20 Mar 2011 23:15:32 +0000

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Comment on Avoidant Personality Disorder by Dinorah Bogumil

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Comment on Histrionic Personality Disorder by Alfredia Fillinger

Alfredia Fillinger — Sun, 27 Feb 2011 11:30:04 +0000

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